Tuesday, December 3, 2013
Love Him? You Don't Know Him!!
**Excessive Ranting and Raving Alert**
I realize that every one of my posts is basically just me rambling about whatever happens to be on my mind at any given time. Generally (in this blog at least) I try to keep these rambles contained to music related topics and I like to keep them positive, mostly because I don't listen to music I don't like and also because I generally try not to waste a lot of time or effort on negative things. I have found that plenty of negativity will come into our lives without us making an effort at it. That being said, I'm not all zen all the time and crap gets on my nerves quite frequently. Most of the time I let it go, but this one thing has been kind of irking me for like a week now, so I figured I'd spew about it here a bit, then let it go. Pass it along, like an earworm, as it were.
So, a few days ago (a week, maybe more? I'm not sure) a male musician of the not unattractive variety posted on twitter that a bear had actually broken into the cabin he was staying in and had basically eaten the kitchen. He then took a screen shot of said tweet and posted it on Instagram and Tumblr, as you do. My first thought was, "Huh, I didn't know bears were gluten free." but some other people of the female persuasion felt it was appropriate to post "I love you" or the even more over-the-top "I'm in love with you" as a response to this.
Nothing more than that, just "I'm in love with you". Now, I'm not blind and I don't live under a rock, I see these kinds of comments all over the place in response to all manner of celebrity posts, but this time it was just so completely out of place and so totally unrelated to the original post that it just bugged the shit out of me. I mean, what was the point? Why do these girls feel inclined to constantly post that kind of thing? What outcome are they hoping for? And are they even thinking about what they're saying and how ridiculous it sounds? I guess my biggest problem with this is that it isn't always very young girls that don't realize what they're saying, sometimes it's grown ass women that really should know better. Do people not realize that to say that you're in love with someone and to say that you love someone's music are two entirely different things?
Let's be realistic for just a second (yes, I know, I don't like it either), we all love the music of many different artists. We love the lyrics, the sounds, we're incredibly grateful for what some of these songs have done for us. And, in turn, what the artists themselves have done to enrich our lives with this incredible gift they've given us. I suppose the same is true with any kind of art or celebrity, but I think especially with music for fans, it is extremely personal, so sometimes it's tough to remember that while we might have these intense, deeply personal relationships with songs and albums, that relationship doesn't translate through to the artist. Yes, he wrote that song that speaks to your very soul, that makes you cry or that heals wounds you didn't even realize you had and you think that for him to have put those lyrics together with that music and to have created that magic, you surely must be kindred spirits. Believe me, I get that, but the reality of the situation is that we don't actually know these artists. Not really. Not on a day-to-day human basis.
Something tells me that the kind of girls that post these type of comments couldn't exist on a bare ration of attention. I'm thinking that the reality of being the significant other of a touring musician might not be all it's cracked up to be for someone who needs that kind of ego stroking. Playing second fiddle to the muse and being left at home for months on end is not going to be everyone's cup of tea. So please, just stop for a second and think about what you're saying. If you want to compliment someone, compliment his or her work, say something meaningful. Because just like you, these artists are actual people and if you have a genuine compliment, if their work has had a real impact on you, they want to hear it. Who wouldn't want to hear that?
Okay, thanks for reading, I feel much better now.